Developing a Conscience in My Child | Part 4


Cheering When Doing The Right Thing

We have consistently mentioned that one of the most important things in parenting is encouraging our children when they make the right choice.  It is not enough to discipline when they do the wrong thing; we must show them that choosing to do the right thing is worth it. That way when they are older it will be instilled in them that making the right choices although hard sometimes is worth my time.

We do this by giving rewards for the right choice.  It can even be as simple as verbal praise.  In our house with our almost three year old this is something that, although sometimes hard to remember, is imperative to encouraging right behavior.   It seems with this toddler and preschool phase it is easy to constantly be saying “no” or redirecting. I have to catch myself and make sure that I am going crazy with praise when he obeys, sometimes a happy dance or high fives are requested. It is important to get in the habit early of praising the right choice otherwise it is easy to get in the mentality of just expecting good behavior and not rewarding it.


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Developing a Conscience in My Child | Part 3


From Conscience To Action

A great story that illustrates how we go from conscience to action can be found in the Bible.

Luke 10:25-37

25 On one occasion an expert in the law stood up to test Jesus. “Teacher,” he asked, “what must I do to inherit eternal life?”26 “What is written in the Law?” he replied. “How do you read it? 27 He answered, “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind’; and, ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’”28 “You have answered correctly,” Jesus replied. “Do this and you will live.” 29 But he wanted to justify himself, so he asked Jesus, “And who is my neighbor?” 30 In reply Jesus said: “A man was going down from Jerusalem to Jericho, when he was attacked by robbers. They stripped him of his clothes, beat him and went away, leaving him half dead. 31 A priest happened to be going down the same road, and when he saw the man, he passed by on the other side. 32 So too, a Levite, when he came to the place and saw him, passed by on the other side. 33 But a Samaritan, as he traveled, came where the man was; and when he saw him, he took pity on him. 34 He went to him and bandaged his wounds, pouring on oil and wine. Then he put the man on his own donkey, brought him to an inn and took care of him. 35 The next day he took out two denarii and gave them to the innkeeper. ‘Look after him,’ he said, ‘and when I return, I will reimburse you for any extra expense you may have.’ 36 “Which of these three do you think was a neighbor to the man who fell into the hands of robbers?” 37 The expert in the law replied, “The one who had mercy on him. ”Jesus told him, “Go and do likewise.”


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Developing a Conscience in My Child | Part 2


The Training Process

Conscience is knowing what’s right, then feeling the obligation to do what is right. That doesn’t come automatically, it must be taught or instilled. So the question is, how do I raise a kid of conscience? The training process has five parts.

First, we need to teach them that there is a right from wrong, or moral absolutes. Learning what is right and what is wrong comes from Truth.  The Truth, it’s not situational.  Right is right always. The same for wrong its wrong where ever it’s done, even if no one sees you.

Second, communicate with your child.  Be there to be a sounding board and allow your child to process situations through with you.

Third, we need to set the example.  Make sure to follow your conscience and express to your children when you do so.

Forth, give your child a framework in which to learn.  A great way to start is teaching your child to say “I’m sorry” even if they don’t quite mean it.  This teaches them when they do something wrong.

Fifth, we need to give them the experience of following their conscience.  Even from a young age.  Allow them to exercise their choice and then reward or consequence based on the outcome.


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Developing a Conscience in My Child | Part 1


Start The Development In Your Child’s Heart

Webster’s Dictionary defines conscience as, “the sense or consciousness of the moral goodness or blameworthiness of one’s own conduct, intentions, or character together with a feeling of obligation to do right or be good.” The development of a consistent value system is the foundation for our decisions, for our sensitivity to what is right and what is wrong and for the feelings of those around us.  The media has recently been barraging us with stories that show us why the development of a conscience is imperative.  It seems scary that many of the children today are growing up with out a moral code.  Simple things like cheating in school isn’t seen as wrong, to things like online bullying and even more horrific things like school shootings are all evidences of where are society is at.

Chuck Colson states, ““Most people believe the conscience is regulated by feelings.  But it must be informed by objective moral truth.  Our conscience needs to be trained, and failing to do so results in dire consequences.  To see the cost open today’s newspapers.”

Those of us who have raise toddlers know that a conscience is not something that we are born with; it is something that is developed and nurtured.  Check back this week for more on the training process.


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