cyber bullying

Privacy vs.Protection | Part 9

2014-06-23T13:23:44+00:00

Cyber-Bullies

Another issue to address when discussing the reputation is the fact that some teens will attempt to defame each other using social networking sites. This is called cyber bullying. There is something that is different about cyber bullying from the usual form.  There is certain anonymity to it.  If you are on a social networking cite you can even set up an account with a fake name.  This would allow the bully to be totally anonymous.  What this means is that anyone and everyone could potentially be a bully. And statistics would show that it is a very common practice.  Even the victims of traditional bullying can take part in this form.

Because this is such a common occurrence and such a part of teenage culture, we must make sure that we talk with our kids about it.  When we set up the house parameters about internet we need to include the rules about cyber bullying.  Discuss with your spouse what the consequences will be if your children are caught being mean too or defaming someone else on the internet.

Many parents may ask, what’s really the big deal with this issue? First and foremost there are countless scriptures about guarding your tongue and not allowing unwholesome or slanderous talk come out of your mouth, in this case fingers.  But we also need to teach our children that not only is spreading lies wrong but spreading gossip about someone else is wrong as well.  The second thing to keep in mind is that there have been children that have been so affected by cyber bullying that they have gone so far as to take their own life.  Because of the seriousness of this we need to protect our children not only from being bullied but from being a part of bullying someone else.

Listen to today’s podcast for more insight on this topic.

Privacy vs.Protection | Part 9 2014-06-23T13:23:44+00:00

Cyber-Bullying – Part 5

2010-12-20T11:53:18+00:00

More Resources to Help Your Kids with Cyber-Bullying

During the week we touched on a few ways to place boundaries on the internet. We are going to spend more time discussing that topic today.  We already mentioned to keep the computer in an open area.  This means that for many reasons it is not wise to have a computer in your child’s bedroom.  It is also a good idea to keep cell phones out in an open area of the house as well.  You can create a charging station where the family can put their cells together.  There are many reasons for this one being it will help with creating an atmosphere for family time to happen.  Another thing that should happen is that parents should have access to the child’s email and social networking accounts.  This is for your child’s protection.

There are many who may feel these are extreme measures but as we have discussed in the past your child’s protection is more important.  This can help the parent not only be aware of any bullying that is taking place but can help protect the child from bigger threats such as predators.  We can remind ourselves, and our children if need be, that internet and cell phones are a privilege not a right.  With allowing our children these privileges it requires the parent greater responsibility in monitoring.

Check out these websites for more information on cyber-bullying.

www.stopcyberbullying.org
www.parentingteensonline.com
www.cyberbullying.us

Listen to today’s podcast for more insight on cyber-bullying.

Cyber-Bullying – Part 5 2010-12-20T11:53:18+00:00

Cyber-Bullying – Part 4

2010-12-20T11:54:10+00:00

How a Parent Should Respond to Cyber-Bullying

There are two things that we can do as parents when our child has been cyber-bullied.  The first is to take a breath.  We need to realize that how we react to the situation can determine if our child will continue to come to us with these types of problems.

There are many reactions we can have.  The first is to treat it like it is not a big deal.  We need to remember that to our child it is a big deal and we need to not blow off their feelings.  Another response is to overreact.  If the things that are said about our child are not true, our child may be fearful that we will believe them and shut their world down.  Our child may also fear that we attempt to take matters into our own hands.  This can be a very delicate situation because for some, the rumors may be true and the parent has been unaware of it.  In this instance we also have to be very careful how we respond to our child because even though they may have messed up they are still being bullied.

The appropriate response is to first lend a listening ear.  Then we can slowly begin to advise our child on how to handle it.  If we are over reactionary at first then our child will be less apt to listen to our advice.  Keep in mind the victims of this type of bullying feel so alone and that every one is out to get them.  It is very important that family is there to surround them with comfort and support.

Listen to today’s podcast for more insight on cyber-bullying.

Cyber-Bullying – Part 4 2010-12-20T11:54:10+00:00

Cyber-Bullying – Part 3

2010-12-20T11:54:56+00:00

The Forms of Cyber-Bullying

There are many forms of cyber-bullying out there.  So we are going to focus on a few.  Because it is so common for teens to always have these on them, cell phones have become a common tool for bullying.  One of the ways utilize this tool is to use the camera or video on the cell to capture unflattering things or anything that can be mocked.  These can be sent out via text or posted to Facebook or YouTube, even instantly if the bully has a smart phone.

The victims themselves can unfortunately cause another type of bullying.  A child can unwisely send a picture, even an inappropriate one, to a boyfriend/girlfriend.  This can be posted to the internet as well.  Once things like this get out it can be overwhelming for the victim because it may feel like they cannot escape these images or videos.

One of the other big ways to cyber-bully is to gang up on someone.  This can happen a lot between girls.  A group of girls will find someone to pick on and then like dripping water do little things constantly to annoy. It can then carry over into the social networking arena.  When this happens home is not even a sanctuary from the constant picking and it is easy to see why kids feel so overwhelmed and alone.

This is one reason why it is so important to have the family computer out in the open, like the living room.  That way you can be there to observe your child as they are talking to friends online.  And you can be there instantly to support if you see that there is something wrong.

Listen to today’s podcast for more insight on cyber-bullying.

Cyber-Bullying – Part 3 2010-12-20T11:54:56+00:00

Cyber-Bullying – Part 2

2010-12-20T11:58:49+00:00

How is Cyber-Bullying Different Than Typical Bullying?

There is something that is different about cyber bullying from the usual form.  There is certain anonymity to it.  If you are on a social networking cite you can even set up an account with a fake name.  This would allow the bully to be totally anonymous.  What this means is that anyone and everyone could potentially be a bully. And statistics would show that it is a very common practice.  Even the victims of traditional bullying can take part in this form.

Because this is such a common occurrence and such a part of teenage culture, we must make sure that we talk with our kids about it.  When we set up the house parameters about internet we need to include the rules about cyber bullying.  Discuss with your spouse what the consequences will be if your children are caught being mean too or defaming someone else on the internet.

Many parents may ask, what’s really the big deal with this issue? First and foremost there are countless scriptures about guarding your tongue and not allowing unwholesome or slanderous talk come out of your mouth, in this case fingers.  But we also need to teach our children that not only is spreading lies wrong but spreading gossip about someone else is wrong as well.  The second thing to keep in mind is that there have been children that have been so affected by cyber bullying that they have gone so far as to take their own life.  Because of the seriousness of this we need to protect our children not only from being bullied but from being a part of bullying someone else.

Listen to today’s podcast for more insight on cyber bullying.

Cyber-Bullying – Part 2 2010-12-20T11:58:49+00:00

Cyber Bullying – Part 1

2010-12-20T12:02:14+00:00

What is Cyber-Bullying?

In past generations children could run into their home for protection from the bullies outside.  Unfortunately for today’s children that is not always the case. With the addition of the internet and social networking, today’s bullies can continue to pick on others even after school and at home.

As parents we need to be aware that this can happen.  The internet is not a bad thing in fact there are many benefits to today’s student.  They have access to a wealth of information at their fingertips.  However, if left unmonitored it can be dangerous for our children.  In fact, in April we spent some time discussing internet safety.

Through the social networking arena bullies can continue to attempt to defame other children.  There always needs to be an open door policy when it comes to the internet, both figuratively and literally.  Your children should always come to you if there is something that makes them uncomfortable while online.  Just like discussing with your children how to handle bullies at school, you need to talk to your children about bullying online.  What it actually looks like and how to handle it.

Listen to today’s podcast for more insight on this topic.

Cyber Bullying – Part 1 2010-12-20T12:02:14+00:00