goals

Setting Marriage Goals | Part 5

2016-01-15T21:00:58+00:00

What They Are And How To Get There -Part 2

We discussed yesterday that establishing spiritual goals is the first step to the goal setting process, but what are some other areas for goal setting? There are relationship goals. These are goals for how to make the relationship a priority. There are sexual goals. Setting aside time to continually learn each other and make the sexual relationship as a priority. Financial goals can be next on the list, getting out of debt, saving for the future, retirement, etc. Parenting goals need to be discussed as well. Finally, activities that you want to do both as a family and as a couple.
Now that we have a list of goals to work through, how do we take the next step? Set aside a time for an initial discussion. Like we said earlier this week, it can be a date night away from the house in a neutral environment or even a weekend away. Establish the goals then map out a plan of how to reach those goals. For example, the goal is to make the marriage relationship more of a priority. So what does that look like, a weekly date night, maybe an overnight trip once a year? The map will vary for each couple. Finally, set aside a time to check back on the progress made for reaching your goals.
Take time to make goals for your marriage, it will keep both spouses headed in the same direction.

For more on this topic listen to today’s podcast.

Setting Marriage Goals | Part 5 2016-01-15T21:00:58+00:00

Setting Marriage Goals | Part 4

2016-01-14T21:00:40+00:00

What They Are And How To Get There-Part 1
The first goal as a couple is to establish why we are here. It is to create a philosophy of life. This may be a lofty first step but all other goals will be filtered through this one goal. It is imperative to answer this question as a couple. One answer to why we are here as a family, would be to glorify God. This first set of goals are spiritual. Examples would be, making sure each spouse has time for personal time with God, spouses have a time to pray together, family devotions together and how we serve others as a family. Once you have established the broad goals you can spend time talking through a plan of action, the how to’s, the how often, and then fitting it into the schedule. With the spiritual goals mapped out spouses can then work through other goals for marriage with the filter set in place, would this glorify God?
Check back tomorrow for part two of “What they are and how to get there”

Listen to today’s podcast for more on this topic.

Setting Marriage Goals | Part 4 2016-01-14T21:00:40+00:00

Setting Marriage Goals | Part 3

2016-01-13T21:00:14+00:00

Drawing Your Spouse Into The Process

It is interesting that for the most part we marry our opposite. If not personality, then even the way that males a females approach things are extremely different. Chances are that one spouse is very goal oriented while the other may be more relational. How do we come together to establish common marital goals? Set aside time for consistent communication. It is very interesting that God chose to give us two ears and one mouth. He also allowed for that mouth to be able to be shut. The take away is that we should be doing at least double the amount listening then we do talking. This is especially true for the goal oriented spouse. Listen to what each other is truly saying or dreaming. What of those dreams should be added to the list of goals? Make sure to give yourselves ample amount of time to talk. This is why a “date night” is so important. It gets you out of the house into neutral territory to allow for these kinds of discussions. Take the time to truly hear each others hearts to process through marital goals.

Listen to today’s podcast for more on the topic of marital goals.

Setting Marriage Goals | Part 3 2016-01-13T21:00:14+00:00

Setting Marriage Goals | Part 2

2016-01-12T21:00:01+00:00

Fitting Individual Goals Into The Marriage

Yesterday, we looked at the marriage as a vehicle to get to a common destination. Today we need to focus on the word team. Today’s culture deems the sense of self very important. We attempt to protect our sense of self, almost at all costs. The problem with this is we can easily become two married individuals who live together rather then all that God designed us to be. Genesis 2:24 says, “That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.” We are to become one unit or team. We don’t completely loose everything about who we are as individuals or why would God give us unique gifts and talents.
How often can we see different players on various sports teams who put their individual goal ahead of the teams. College players whose goals are to play professionally or even players who play very cautiously because their goal is to not get injured. They don’t allow their team to be the best they can be when they put their own goals first. This is the same for marriage. We need to process through with our spouse how our individual goals fit with our goals for our marriage.
Take the time to talk through this as a couple, maybe even listen to this week’s podcasts together.

Setting Marriage Goals | Part 2 2016-01-12T21:00:01+00:00

Setting Marriage Goals | Part 1

2016-01-12T12:00:06+00:00

Where Is Your Marriage Going?

When asked if their marriage has goals, many couples would wonder what you meant. Think of a marriage like a vehicle. In order to take a trip as a family it would be important to have a destination in mind. It would be especially important to have discussed ahead of time where you wanted to go. You wouldn’t want to spend the trip wandering aimlessly,, nor would it be good if each spouse had a different destination in mind and never discussed it with the other. That would spell certain disaster for sure.
Many couples in the dating years have the common goal of marriage but where does it go beyond that? We tend to have individual goals of where we see ourselves and what we want to do with our lives but what about common goals for our marriage and family?
Take time to think and talk through with your spouse this idea of goals for your marriage. Check back as we discuss this topic further through this week.

As always listen to today’s podcast for more insight on this topic of marital goal setting.

Setting Marriage Goals | Part 1 2016-01-12T12:00:06+00:00

Setting Marriage Goals | Part 5

2013-09-13T20:51:33+00:00

What They Are And How To Get There -Part 2

We discussed yesterday that establishing spiritual goals is the first step to the goal setting process, but what are some other areas for goal setting? There are relationship goals. These are goals for how to make the relationship a priority. There are sexual goals. Setting aside time to continually learn each other and make the sexual relationship as a priority. Financial goals can be next on the list, getting out of debt, saving for the future, retirement, etc. Parenting goals need to be discussed as well. Finally, activities that you want to do both as a family and as a couple.
Now that we have a list of goals to work through, how do we take the next step? Set aside a time for an initial discussion. Like we said earlier this week, it can be a date night away from the house in a neutral environment or even a weekend away. Establish the goals then map out a plan of how to reach those goals. For example, the goal is to make the marriage relationship more of a priority. So what does that look like, a weekly date night, maybe an overnight trip once a year? The map will vary for each couple. Finally, set aside a time to check back on the progress made for reaching your goals.
Take time to make goals for your marriage, it will keep both spouses headed in the same direction.

For more on this topic listen to today’s podcast.

Setting Marriage Goals | Part 5 2013-09-13T20:51:33+00:00

Setting Marriage Goals | Part 4

2013-09-12T20:09:20+00:00

What They Are And How To Get There-Part 1
The first goal as a couple is to establish why we are here. It is to create a philosophy of life. This may be a lofty first step but all other goals will be filtered through this one goal. It is imperative to answer this question as a couple. One answer to why we are here as a family, would be to glorify God. This first set of goals are spiritual. Examples would be, making sure each spouse has time for personal time with God, spouses have a time to pray together, family devotions together and how we serve others as a family. Once you have established the broad goals you can spend time talking through a plan of action, the how to’s, the how often, and then fitting it into the schedule. With the spiritual goals mapped out spouses can then work through other goals for marriage with the filter set in place, would this glorify God?
Check back tomorrow for part two of “What they are and how to get there”

Listen to today’s podcast for more on this topic.

Setting Marriage Goals | Part 4 2013-09-12T20:09:20+00:00

Setting Marriage Goals | Part 3

2013-09-11T14:18:13+00:00

Drawing Your Spouse Into The Process

It is interesting that for the most part we marry our opposite. If not personality, then even the way that males a females approach things are extremely different. Chances are that one spouse is very goal oriented while the other may be more relational. How do we come together to establish common marital goals? Set aside time for consistent communication. It is very interesting that God chose to give us two ears and one mouth. He also allowed for that mouth to be able to be shut. The take away is that we should be doing at least double the amount listening then we do talking. This is especially true for the goal oriented spouse. Listen to what each other is truly saying or dreaming. What of those dreams should be added to the list of goals? Make sure to give yourselves ample amount of time to talk. This is why a “date night” is so important. It gets you out of the house into neutral territory to allow for these kinds of discussions. Take the time to truly hear each others hearts to process through marital goals.

Listen to today’s podcast for more on the topic of marital goals.

Setting Marriage Goals | Part 3 2013-09-11T14:18:13+00:00

Setting Marriage Goals | Part 2

2013-09-10T20:09:39+00:00

Fitting Individual Goals Into The Marriage

Yesterday, we looked at the marriage as a vehicle to get to a common destination. Today we need to focus on the word team. Today’s culture deems the sense of self very important. We attempt to protect our sense of self, almost at all costs. The problem with this is we can easily become two married individuals who live together rather then all that God designed us to be. Genesis 2:24 says, “That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.” We are to become one unit or team. We don’t completely loose everything about who we are as individuals or why would God give us unique gifts and talents.
How often can we see different players on various sports teams who put their individual goal ahead of the teams. College players whose goals are to play professionally or even players who play very cautiously because their goal is to not get injured. They don’t allow their team to be the best they can be when they put their own goals first. This is the same for marriage. We need to process through with our spouse how our individual goals fit with our goals for our marriage.
Take the time to talk through this as a couple, maybe even listen to this week’s podcasts together.

Setting Marriage Goals | Part 2 2013-09-10T20:09:39+00:00

Setting Marriage Goals | Part 1

2013-09-10T23:49:06+00:00

Where Is Your Marriage Going?

When asked if their marriage has goals, many couples would wonder what you meant. Think of a marriage like a vehicle. In order to take a trip as a family it would be important to have a destination in mind. It would be especially important to have discussed ahead of time where you wanted to go. You wouldn’t want to spend the trip wandering aimlessly,, nor would it be good if each spouse had a different destination in mind and never discussed it with the other. That would spell certain disaster for sure.
Many couples in the dating years have the common goal of marriage but where does it go beyond that? We tend to have individual goals of where we see ourselves and what we want to do with our lives but what about common goals for our marriage and family?
Take time to think and talk through with your spouse this idea of goals for your marriage. Check back as we discuss this topic further through this week.

As always listen to today’s podcast for more insight on this topic of marital goal setting.

Setting Marriage Goals | Part 1 2013-09-10T23:49:06+00:00