Making Your Marriage the Key Relationship in the Family | Part 5

Making Your Marriage the Key Relationship in the Family | Part 5

Jun 02

What If One Spouse Doesn’t Get It?

Instead of getting frustrated with our spouse or allow ourselves to be hurt by what we perceive to be a lack of motivation, we need to remember sometimes we get stuck! We get stuck in our routines.  We get stuck in our personalities.  We get stuck in our dysfunctional training, didn’t grow up seeing this. We get stuck in our comfort zone; change isn’t comfortable for everyone.  We get stuck because of a lack of knowledge.

When we begin to feel disheartened we must be encouraged that a good marriage is always something that is pleasing to God.  And keep in the forefront of your mind, Philippians 4:13, “I can do all things through him who strengthens me.” Pursue your spouse and spend copious amounts of time bathing your relationship, your spouse and yourself in prayer. Be careful to go at your spouse’s pace.  You don’t want to overwhelm or push them away because they feel uncomfortable.  Don’t ever give up!

 

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Making Your Marriage the Key Relationship in the Family | Part 4

Making Your Marriage the Key Relationship in the Family | Part 4

Jun 01

Where Does A Couple Begin?

First thing that must happen is the couple must decide together that this is important. They need to make the choice to put their marriage first. Secondly, they have to take action. A conversation needs to happen on how you are going to be intentional as a couple.  There needs to be time put into the schedule just for the spouses to be alone.  They need to learn how to enjoy each other’s company.  Time set aside for communication is important as well.  Make sure there is also time set aside for a date night, where the spouses can get out of the house together ALONE.  Because of the busyness of the family schedule and children’s needs this has to be intentional.  Date nights need to be put on the calendar so they are deemed important and actually take place.  Remember, relationship isn’t automatic it takes “work” or time, attention and intention.

 

Make the choice to put your marriage first and start practicing the art of relationship today.

 

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Making Your Marriage the Key Relationship in the Family | Part 3

Making Your Marriage the Key Relationship in the Family | Part 3

May 31

How Did So Many Homes Go From Marriage-Centered to Child-Centered

One answer may be that many homes were not honestly marriage-centered.  Becoming one flesh and actually “doing” marriage is a difficult task.  Many couples, when they leave the honeymoon phase of their marriage relationship, begin to focus on their careers as a priority.  We can easily divvy up jobs and tasks and almost become strangers sleeping next to each other.   It is also easy to forget to continually pursue our spouse, to continue to deepen the friendship and intimacy.  If kids enter at this point it is easy to see how their needs become front and center and the marriage needs get placed on the back burner.

Even the strongest marriages will have to continually battle the tyranny of the urgent and fight to be consumed by the needs of children or paying the bills.  Children are an amazing blessing from God but a couple needs to remember that child rearing is just a season of their marriage.  A marriage that is going to last a lifetime needs time and input, even through those frenetic years of parenting.

Make the choice today to keep your marriage a priority.

 

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Making Your Marriage the Key Relationship in the Family | Part 2

Making Your Marriage the Key Relationship in the Family | Part 2

May 30

It’s The Training Ground For The Marriages of Your Children

For better or worse our marriage sets up our children’s expectations for their marriages. This is another important reason to make sure that the marriage relationship is the priority relationship in the home, after a relationship with God. Here are some areas to process through and make sure that your children are seeing Godly examples in, Biblical leadership and Biblical submission.  Do you and your spouse edify each other or tear each other down in front of your children? Do your children observe healthy conflict? Do your children see you having fun together? Can they see that you are still attracted to each other?  Do they see mommy and daddy go on dates and other things that would suggest that the relationship is a priority?

We have discussed some of the ways our marriages impact our children in our series Role Modeling Commitment In Your Marriage.  Click here to check out that series.

 

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Making Your Marriage the Key Relationship in the Family | Part 1

Making Your Marriage the Key Relationship in the Family | Part 1

May 29

Why It Is The Most Important

It is so easy to allow your marriage to fall on the back burner when you have children.  Why does this happen? There are a few reasons, first may be that the couple placed a higher priority on their careers so it was easy for children to fill that spot.  Secondly, life happens so fast and marriage takes time and effort.  So maybe the concept of the tyranny of the urgent takes over and we know that parenting needs to be a priority so we devote all of our time and energy to that.

It is so worth the time and work to maintain your marriage.   It’s God’s plan: Genesis 2:24-25 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. The man and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame. “ The primary relationship for the spouses, other than God, is the marriage relationship.  It is a launch pad for the next generation.  God created the family structure with the marriage as the foundation, a husband and a wife, two very different people becoming one – like concrete and steel – forming the inseparable foundation for the family to be built on. That’s why God hates divorce (Malachi) It is a representation of His love relationship with the church.  We have the privilege to live out God’s love for our children.  That is why it is worth putting in the time and effort to make it a priority.

 

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