marriage

Becoming Your Spouse’s Best Friend | Part 5

2018-06-07T14:13:09+00:00

Attributes Of A Friend-Part 2

We are continuing yesterday’s study on what it looks like to be a best friend. Here are some more attributes and verses to study through.
Best friends strive to become great encouragers. Hebrews 3:13
“But encourage one another daily… ”
Best friends strive to be Self-Sacrificing . Philippians 2:4 “Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.
Best friends strive to be spiritually challenging. Proverbs 13:20 “He who walks with the wise grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers harm.”
Best friends are fun to be with, remember fun? Proverbs 17:22
“A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.”

 

Becoming Your Spouse’s Best Friend | Part 5 2018-06-07T14:13:09+00:00

Becoming Your Spouse’s Best Friend | Part 4

2018-06-07T14:12:22+00:00

Attributes Of A Friend-Part 1

The next two days we will simply share the attributes of a friend and some verses that go along with them for you to process. Take the time to look these up over the next few days.
Best friends are loyal. Proverbs 17:17 “A friend Loves at all times..”
Best friends share. One way they do this is by being good listeners. James 1:19 “My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry,”
They also share by being wise talkers. Ephesians 4:29 “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.”
Best friends strive to be intellectually stimulating. Proverbs 27:17 “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another. ”

 

Becoming Your Spouse’s Best Friend | Part 4 2018-06-07T14:12:22+00:00

Becoming Your Spouse’s Best Friend | Part 3

2018-06-07T14:11:19+00:00

Risking Who I Am

There is an incredible focus today on self. We say words like self-esteem, self-worth, self-discovery and self-preservation. The problem is before marriage we have not really practiced the art of loosing oneself. We harp on this scenario a lot but 100 years ago a family meant sharing things; you shared toys, a room and possibly even a bed with siblings. The concepts of my own and selfishness were not what they are today. Children today have there own set of toys and many today don’t even understand the concept of sharing the family phone because everyone has their own cell phone. So if the sharing of things is rare this concept of sharing self is very foreign.
As we talked about yesterday God has brought two very different people together with the purpose of making them become one. This means we have to give up this sense of self for this purpose. Ultimately sacrificing our wants, desires and even needs to put the other first. This is what becoming best friends looks like sacrificing self to gain becoming one.

 

Becoming Your Spouse’s Best Friend | Part 3 2018-06-07T14:11:19+00:00

Becoming Your Spouse’s Best Friend | Part 2

2018-06-07T14:10:32+00:00

Understanding Your Spouses Perspective

There is a choice we have to make in any relationship but especially in marriage, and that is choosing to understand the other person’s perspective. We are going to have very different outlooks on life. There are gender differences which will cause us to see things differently. We also have differences in personality as well as different communication styles. To further complicate the situation we tend to marry our opposite in these areas. Morning people marry night people, communicators marry non-communicators and introverts marry extroverts to name a few. God intentionally put us with people who are our opposite to smooth out the rough edges, allow us to be an effective team and be more well rounded and prepared then just one of us alone. So instead of getting annoyed that our spouse doesn’t do things the same way we do, we need to embrace it. Even take it a step further and try to see things from their perspective. Friends take the time to understand each other. The amazing thing is a lot of the ways we are opposite may not have been revealed until after we were married. Some call this God’s sense of humor but in reality it’s His brilliance. We get to spend a life time working to better understand the one He has given us. The relationship will only get stale and old if we give up the attempt to better understand and serve our spouse. Choose to see things from your spouses point of view and take that step to being a better friend.

 

Becoming Your Spouse’s Best Friend | Part 2 2018-06-07T14:10:32+00:00

Becoming Your Spouse’s Best Friend | Part 1

2018-06-07T14:15:49+00:00

Choosing To Be Your Spouses Best Friend

In order to become best friends, we need to make this relationship a top priority. It’s easy when life happens, children enter the picture and stress creeps in to allow marriage to get place on the back burner. If we are not careful then years may go by and we may look at our spouse and realize that we are married to a stranger. We need to take the time to input into our marriage through all the stress and chaos so that we are able to grow together. This enables to to become one flesh.
Jesus tells us in Matthew 22:37-39 Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ As many times as I hear this verse it’s such a great reminder that our closest neighbor is our spouse. If we are not choosing to love them then how can we expect the love to appropriately trickle down to our children then those around us. Check back the rest of this week as we discuss tips for pursuing a best friend relationship with your spouse.

 

Becoming Your Spouse’s Best Friend | Part 1 2018-06-07T14:15:49+00:00

Money and Your Marriage | Part 5

2016-11-07T16:53:11+00:00

Taking The Steps To Develop Financial Goals

As with many other areas this starts with a staff meeting. Discuss what you both want out of life; look at both the short term and long term. Next a monthly budget needs to be established. Make room for bills, tithe, savings and other monthly expenses. With in this a decision about credit cards needs to be made. Set aside time to discuss annual financial goals as well. For example, what bills to pay off by end of year, what necessary purchases by end of year and anticipated repairs by end of year. Always keep in mind that love means compromise, mutual submission to each other!

As always listen to today’s podcast for more on this topic.

Money and Your Marriage | Part 5 2016-11-07T16:53:11+00:00

Money and Your Marriage | Part 3

2016-11-07T16:55:53+00:00

Myths About Money- Part 1

One of the first myths that some hold to is the husband should be the one handling the money. Finances should be a team effort with the one who is more financial minded leading the way. Because we marry our opposites one of the two spouses will probably be more financially bent.
Another myth that some believe is “it’s my money I’ll do with it what I please”. They live dual income marriages. It is hard to be one flesh and may create tension and competitiveness if this is how money is handled. What happens if one spouse is out of work or decides to stay home with children? This is why finances should be “one flesh.” Check back tomorrow as we deal with more money myths in marriage.

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Money and Your Marriage | Part 3 2016-11-07T16:55:53+00:00

Money and Your Marriage | Part 2

2016-11-07T16:54:50+00:00

Becoming One Flesh With Money

​Genesis 2 states, “and the two will become one flesh”. ​​Few things tare that joining flesh apart as much as the way we handle our finances. Because we probably come into marriage with such different approaches to finances, we must come up with a game plan. Like we stated in our series on setting goals in your marriage, it can begin with setting goals. If spouses can agree on and work towards financial goals it will be a step towards maintaining financial “one flesh”. This all begins with communication. It takes communication to work through financial goals and it takes continued communication as you work towards them. Take the time to evaluate where you are in the financial oneness process. Sit down with your spouse and work through areas that need to be improved on to bring you closer together.

Listen to today’s podcast on finances in marriage.

Money and Your Marriage | Part 2 2016-11-07T16:54:50+00:00

Money and Your Marriage | Part 1

2016-11-07T14:15:03+00:00

Why It’s Such An Area Of Conflict

Money is one of the top three areas of conflict in a marriage; some polls even list it as number one. Why is that? Money can be a very difficult thing to see eye to eye on.   Because we tend to marry our opposites, a spender will usually marry a saver. A “live for the moment” personality will marry a planner. This can cause the area money to be a huge mine field for potential problems. Then many come to marriage from a background with no training in finances or come into marriage with debt. Money can be a cause for huge stress. So how do we come together to deal with money in marriage? Check back this week for answers to that question.

 

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Money and Your Marriage | Part 1 2016-11-07T14:15:03+00:00