Willingness To Let Go
One of the most painful things for a mother is the letting go of a child. The emancipation process for a son is vitally important, per Genesis 2:24, “the man shall leave his mother and father…” The letting go of a son in preparation for adulthood, and ultimately marriage, is something that is more painful for a mom. She will no longer, and should no longer, be the most important female in his life. If this is not intentionally done a man will eventually marry a “mother” figure rather then a wife. This is very detrimental to the marriage relationship.
It must be something that is gradually done from childhood on. In childhood, we begin the emancipation process with allowing them to begin to make their own choices. High school allow them freedom with in the boundary of the rules set up and not hovering or taking their choices personally. As boys grow into men she needs to understand the fact that, while she will always be his mother, she needs to “wean” the mothering and allow him to make his own decisions. This is a very difficult and unnatural process, therefore, it must be a supernatural process. For an amazing example of this read 1 Samuel 1 and reread the story of Hannah.
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