The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #12

The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #12

Jul 23

#12 Teaching Time Management

Over the next few days we will be discussing areas that we need to train our children in that will have an impact on their adult life.  The first is teaching time management.  Teaching our children how to order and manage their time is really key to ordering their life.  It is one of the keys to being a successful adult, being marriageable and employable, as well as being able to find the time to serve God where He has called you.  We spent an entire week discussing this topic. To check out our previous series click here.

 

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The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #11

The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #11

Jul 22

#11- The Importance of Unplugging

One of the things that technology is supposed to do is make it easier for everyone to communicate.  In fact, through things like facebook and twitter we can be updated on even the small details of what is going on in each other’s lives.  Through texting we can discreetly communicate small snippets of information.  Even email has replaced most interoffice communication and the need for buying stamps.  But with the need for instant communication we may be loosing the personal touch which comes with face to face communication.  There was a time when you wouldn’t think of telling something important over the phone because it was too impersonal.  Now we blast our important announcements over the social networks and twitter.

We need to be careful through all of this that our children don’t miss out on being taught how to communicate properly.  If the only way they are learning to communicate is through text and tweets, they are seriously missing out.  You cannot have a deeply heartfelt conversation about emotions through this venue.  That training takes lots of time given by mom and dad.  Make sure there are times of your day where there are “no cell phones allowed”, so your family can communicate to each other with some good old fashioned talking!

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The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #10

The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #10

Jul 21

#10- You Can’t Do Everything

One valuable lesson to teach our children is the lesson of moderation.  This is one of the areas in the power of no.  There will always be time where we have to say no to things for the sake of family, rest or even our own sanity.  Part of teaching your children how to manage a schedule is by giving them the freedom to turn down the superfluous things, and sometimes even the things that may seem important, for the things that are the MOST important.

Putting family first is a lesson that we have to role model.  They must see us turn down things in our lives for the most important things such as a date night with our spouse or a family night.  If this is not something that you do naturally, or you are a people pleaser and have a hard time saying no, it is worth the effort to make a change to role model this for your children.  The other thing that you can do is by helping older teens balance their schedule by setting up family times that “cannot be missed”.  Teens today seem to be running around like chickens with their heads cut off with all the school and extra activities.  We need to step in and help them learn to balance!

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The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #9

The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #9

Jul 18

The Potential Cracks in The Walls- Raising Responsible Children By Giving Them Responsibility.

We cannot hope to raise a child who is responsible unless we are giving them areas of responsibility.  Two areas that are easy to teach a child to be responsible is money and chores. This again is something that can start when they are younger. With chores as we talked yesterday can even start teaching your toddler to clean up after themselves or put their dirty clothes in the hamper and move up from there.  Chores not only teach a child how to do basic household tasks but they also teach time management as they learn how to work chores into their schedule. In do so it ultimately teaches responsibility, “I can’t take the time to play the video game right now because I have to finish this chore.” Keep in mind that we are raising children and not mini adults so this will take consistent training, coaching and encouragement.

The second area where we can give a child responsibility is with money.  We can teach them good money habits or how to be responsible with their money, using allowance.  Using yesterday’s topic as a spring board, we have to make sure that in these areas we are training our kids and then stepping back and allowing them areas of responsibility so they can learn.

 

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The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #8

The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #8

Jul 17

The Potential Cracks In The Walls- Get Out of The Way So They Can Learn

It is so tempting at times to step in and do things for our children. From cleaning their room when they are little to doing their science projects for them as they get older.  We have to let our children learn to do things for themselves.  This means that we have to take the time to, sometimes painstakingly, train them how to do things and then back off and allow them to do it.  This may mean that they (gulp) fail.   That’s ok.  We then applaud the effort and continue the training process.

This process begins when a child is very small.  We can begin with teaching our children how to clean up after themselves.  It then moves to a child learning how to clean up their room.  They will then graduate to learning how to do full blown house hold chores.  If we are consistently doing these things for them they will never learn how to effectively do them for themselves.

It is the same with school work.  We can help, and should, our children with their homework.  This can be a painstaking process and sometimes is much faster to just give a child the answer instead of teaching them how to look it up for themselves. We are not doing our child any favors if we take this approach because they will never figure out how to do the math problem or how to research the answer to that history question.

Make sure to take the time to train your child how to do things but then back off and allow them to learn through the process.

 

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