#4- Potential Cracks In The Wall- Impulse Control
One thing that can cause a life to not be secure is a lack of self-control. Not being able to control ones impulses has vast consequences from affairs to self-inflicted financial problems. This is why from an early age it is imperative that we teach our children how to control their impulses. The slogan “you want it, you got it” is not a very wise way to live life. For more on this very important topic check out our week long series “Teaching Impulse Control” by clicking here.
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#29 = Eat Dinner Together
#30 = Take Vacations Together
Research over the past few years has shown the value of eating together as a family. In fact, an article in TIME, by Nancy Gibbs called The Magic of the Family Meal states, “Studies show that the more often families eat together, the less likely kids are to smoke, drink, do drugs, get depressed, develop eating disorders and consider suicide, and the more likely they are to do well in school, delay having sex, eat their vegetables, learn big words and know which fork to use.”
Sitting down together as a family can also be such an awesome tool for teaching communication. Children can learn the give and take of a conversation. It can also be a great place to talk through how their day went as well as listening to how other family members faired. The dinner table can also be a place for fun. As parents we can be creative conversationalists and do games around the dinner table. We must remember that even though we may be tired from our day we set the tone for how the conversation will go.
Another area that can be a great venue for teaching communication is family vacations. Simply taking a vacation where you have to have some down time as a family can be very valuable. Make sure that when you are planning a vacation it is not all just entertainment but that there is some time set aside to simply be together. If not you may leave the vacation feeling more exhausted then when you left and not feel like you had the time to get to have relationship.
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#28 Applaud Effort and Good Choices
It is very easy for us as parent to get very results oriented, when we need to be process oriented. We are raising children to BECOME adults. We cannot have expectations that they will always make the perfect decision/action/ emotion in a situation. This is why it is imperative that we applaud when they do make a good choice and make an effort to do the right thing. We cannot simply applaud what we think the end result should be. We spent a whole week discussing this topic to check it out, click here.
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#27 Admit When You Are Wrong
There is a phrase that can work wonders in a marriage, employment, friendship, even a parent child relationship and yet many adults really struggle with saying it. Simply saying, “I’m sorry, I was wrong,” can break down barriers and even begin to bring healing to relationships. If it is so powerful then why do we have such a hard time with it? Probably, because it forces us to swallow our pride and put someone else’s needs/opinions in the forefront.
This is particularly hard for many parents to say to their children. Some feel that it is admitting that their judgment isn’t perfect or that there is weakness in an area. But why isn’t that ok to show our children? There will always be times that we don’t make the perfect decision, we are human and make mistakes. Having a humble spirit and admitting when you are wrong to your children will help them learn how to do the same.
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#26 = Let Them Observe You – Live Out Your Marriage
A great concept I read in a book once was the fact that our marriage is our first ministry. It’s not ministering to those in need around us, caring for our children, although both of those are important. It is out of our marriage that all other ministries flow forth. Jesus in commissioning His disciples told them to go to “Jerusalem, Judea and Samaria,then to the ends of the earth. (Acts 1:8) This is why we should first serve our spouse as our first ministry, then our children, then those around us. If the marriage/family relationships are rocky it can steal focus from other ministry opportunities around us. This is why allowing your children to observe how you minister to each other as spouses is vitally important to them, for their future. We actually spent the entire month of June on the topic of marriage. To check out those series click here, you can also see the whole month just by scrolling back to the beginning of June.
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