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Performance Focused Parenting | Part 5

2018-11-07T11:59:12+00:00

It’s Never Too Late!

What do I do if my child is older and I am just processing this now?  It is never too late to begin this process.  You may have a little bit of extra work ahead of you as you set different family priorities and patterns.  It is well worth the effort.

The first thing that needs to be done is, to evaluate the things that need to be added to your schedule and things that need to be cut.  Are there some activities, even though they have always been done, that need to be cut so there is family down time? For example, maybe a family devotion time needs to be added, so your family may have to get up and to the breakfast table together.

Next because the children are older they need to be made aware of what the changes are and why. So a family meeting needs to be held.  Don’t be discouraged if your kids don’t embrace the changes right away.  Remember the goal is to train them for adulthood.

Setting the right priorities for your parenting is always worth the work it takes!

 

 

Performance Focused Parenting | Part 5 2018-11-07T11:59:12+00:00

Performance Focused Parenting | Part 4

2018-11-07T11:59:02+00:00

Raising a God-Honoring Adult

We discussed yesterday about the importance of having a parenting curriculum or a plan for raising your children.  The most important thing on your list of goals for parenting is raising a God-honoring adult.  This will be the filter through which your children live out their adult lives.

We have discussed the “Four E’s” of parenting in the past but they apply to this goal as well.  The first “E” in the training process is example.  We as parents need to model what it means to be a godly adult.  This is so important for our kids to observe because it makes what they learn in church real.  When we do mess up, we need to take the time to admit it and apologize.

The next is expose.  We must expose our kids to the Bible.  Make sure that you are not too busy to take time out for family devotions.  Make exposing your children to kids their age who share their beliefs a priority.  Church and kids ministries are also important in exposing your children to learning about who God is.

The third is experience.  Help your children walk through what it means to be a Christian.  What are the choices that they need to process through the filter of being Godly?  Modesty is one of these issues as is how they treat others.  Many of these daily issues we can be there to help our kids’ process through the experience of what it means to be a Christian.

Finally is encouragement.  We need to be on the sidelines of our children’s lives cheering for the choices that they make.  More than ever it can be difficult to be a Christian in school and stand up for what you believe in.  We need to go crazy with praise when our kids make the right and some times difficult choice.

 

Performance Focused Parenting | Part 4 2018-11-07T11:59:02+00:00

Performance Focused Parenting | Part 3

2018-11-07T11:58:51+00:00

The Parenting Curriculum

How ridiculous would it sound if we went to our child’s open house at school and their teacher had no lesson plans for the year?  Even if the teacher explained the plan for the year being to watch what the other teachers do, then sit over coffee and discuss what worked and what didn’t.  We as parents would be incensed that there was no plan for our child’s education.  But how many of us do this with parenting our children?

We fly through life dropping our kids off at school and activities and our parenting style appears to be trial and error.  When we are so busy life seems to fly by even faster.  It would be such a tragedy to drop our child off on a college campus or watch them go out the door as adults and have regrets about our parenting.   One way to make sure we are able to do our best to train our children is to have goals or a parenting curriculum.  Take the time to process through the areas your child needs to be trained in before adulthood.  There are several places to start. You can start with thinking through the areas that you wished you had more training.  Another great place to start is the book of Proverbs.  This is a book written from father to son and has some wonderful insight.  Make sure that you sit down during one of you parenting staff meeting with you spouse and think through your goals for parenting.  This way you can help to make family and parenting a priority and not just get caught up in the busyness of life.

 

Performance Focused Parenting | Part 3 2018-11-07T11:58:51+00:00

Performance Focused Parenting | Part 2

2018-11-07T11:58:42+00:00

Who are we performing for?

If we are attempting to ensure that we are training our children to be human beings not “human doings” then we need to first step back and examine ourselves.  There are a couple of questions we need to answer in our own lives.  The first is, are we too busy ourselves?  Do we have unrealistic expectations for what we can accomplish?  We need to be able to model down time for our children.  Our children must be able to observe our times of quietness before God, with our spouse and times of simplicity together as family.

The second question we need to answer in our own life is, for whom are we performing?  Are we placing the pressures we feel from others on our children?  For example, our parents may be putting pressure on us for the way we parent or make us feel like our children must be involved in certain activities.  Other families around us may also add to the pressure to have our children involved in activities.  Our peers may inadvertently guilt us into pressuring our children by comparing their children to ours.  We need to remember that we serve only an Audience of One.  He is the only one who will hold us accountable for how we raise our children.  Until we as parents can shift our focus to Him we cannot hope to pass this concept on to our children.

 

Performance Focused Parenting | Part 2 2018-11-07T11:58:42+00:00

Performance Focused Parenting | Part 1

2018-11-07T11:58:26+00:00

What is the Focus of Parenting?

Have we put so much emphasis on the “success” of our kids that life has simply become racing from one activity to another?  Society would have us believe that our children need to be academically, socially and athletically successful to be ready for the adult world.  So childhood flies by in a whirlwind of homework and practices.

We touched on this topic when we discussed time management but we need to take this concept a step deeper.  Have we gotten to the point as parents that we have become our children’s performance enhancement drug?  Have we placed so much pressure on our children to succeed that they may be missing out on the very basics of childhood?  Picturing childhood should conjure up images of swings, ice cream cones and times filled with imagination.   But these pressures have been placed on our children as early as elementary school.  There are areas that need to be developed in our children in order to be marriageable and employable, such as the art of conversation or even think time, that need some down time in order to be taught. We need to remember that we are raising a human being and not a human doing.

This week we will be discussing performance focused parenting as we do make sure to take some time to step back and process what the focus of your parenting is.

 

Performance Focused Parenting | Part 1 2018-11-07T11:58:26+00:00

Understanding My Child’s Lack of Performance w/Dr. Monika Schuelke | Part 5

2013-04-22T23:09:18+00:00

Remembering My Child is Fearfully and Wonderfully Made

We are privileged to have a special guest with us this week to discuss this important topic.

Monika Schuelke, Ph.D., is a licensed clinical psychologist who completed her undergraduate degree at Northwestern University and her graduate degrees at Nova Southeastern University.  Since 2007, she has been working for Child Provider Specialists, where she specializes in diagnostics.  She has extensive experience assessing children and adolescents with cognitive and/or learning challenges, as well as social, emotional, and/or behavioral difficulties.  Additionally, she spent 10 years in the field of Christian education and frequently uses her experiences in the classroom when working with educators to help meet the needs of children.  

Be sure to listen to today’s podcast for her expertise on this topic.

Understanding My Child’s Lack of Performance w/Dr. Monika Schuelke | Part 5 2013-04-22T23:09:18+00:00

Understanding My Child’s Lack of Performance w/Dr. Monika Schuelke | Part 4

2013-04-22T23:07:19+00:00

The Evaluation Process- Part #2

We are privileged to have a special guest with us this week to discuss this important topic.

Monika Schuelke, Ph.D., is a licensed clinical psychologist who completed her undergraduate degree at Northwestern University and her graduate degrees at Nova Southeastern University.  Since 2007, she has been working for Child Provider Specialists, where she specializes in diagnostics.  She has extensive experience assessing children and adolescents with cognitive and/or learning challenges, as well as social, emotional, and/or behavioral difficulties.  Additionally, she spent 10 years in the field of Christian education and frequently uses her experiences in the classroom when working with educators to help meet the needs of children.  

Be sure to listen to today’s podcast for her expertise on this topic.

Understanding My Child’s Lack of Performance w/Dr. Monika Schuelke | Part 4 2013-04-22T23:07:19+00:00

Understanding My Child’s Lack of Performance w/Dr. Monika Schuelke | Part 3

2013-04-22T23:05:16+00:00

The Evaluation Process- Part #1

We are privileged to have a special guest with us this week to discuss this important topic.

Monika Schuelke, Ph.D., is a licensed clinical psychologist who completed her undergraduate degree at Northwestern University and her graduate degrees at Nova Southeastern University.  Since 2007, she has been working for Child Provider Specialists, where she specializes in diagnostics.  She has extensive experience assessing children and adolescents with cognitive and/or learning challenges, as well as social, emotional, and/or behavioral difficulties.  Additionally, she spent 10 years in the field of Christian education and frequently uses her experiences in the classroom when working with educators to help meet the needs of children.  

Be sure to listen to today’s podcast for her expertise on this topic.

Understanding My Child’s Lack of Performance w/Dr. Monika Schuelke | Part 3 2013-04-22T23:05:16+00:00

Understanding My Child’s Lack of Performance w/Dr. Monika Schuelke | Part 2

2013-04-22T23:03:04+00:00

I Think My Child Has ADHD

We are privileged to have a special guest with us this week to discuss this important topic.

Monika Schuelke, Ph.D., is a licensed clinical psychologist who completed her undergraduate degree at Northwestern University and her graduate degrees at Nova Southeastern University.  Since 2007, she has been working for Child Provider Specialists, where she specializes in diagnostics.  She has extensive experience assessing children and adolescents with cognitive and/or learning challenges, as well as social, emotional, and/or behavioral difficulties.  Additionally, she spent 10 years in the field of Christian education and frequently uses her experiences in the classroom when working with educators to help meet the needs of children.  

Be sure to listen to today’s podcast for her expertise on this topic.

Understanding My Child’s Lack of Performance w/Dr. Monika Schuelke | Part 2 2013-04-22T23:03:04+00:00

Understanding My Child’s Lack of Performance w/Dr. Monika Schuelke | Part 1

2013-04-22T22:59:38+00:00

My Child Is Smart. So Why Is He Struggling In School?

We are privileged to have a special guest with us this week to discuss this important topic.

Monika Schuelke, Ph.D., is a licensed clinical psychologist who completed her undergraduate degree at Northwestern University and her graduate degrees at Nova Southeastern University.  Since 2007, she has been working for Child Provider Specialists, where she specializes in diagnostics.  She has extensive experience assessing children and adolescents with cognitive and/or learning challenges, as well as social, emotional, and/or behavioral difficulties.  Additionally, she spent 10 years in the field of Christian education and frequently uses her experiences in the classroom when working with educators to help meet the needs of children.  

Be sure to listen to today’s podcast for her expertise on this topic.

Understanding My Child’s Lack of Performance w/Dr. Monika Schuelke | Part 1 2013-04-22T22:59:38+00:00