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Privacy vs. Protection | Part 9

2016-06-01T11:43:26+00:00

Cyber-Bullies

Another issue to address when discussing the reputation is the fact that some teens will attempt to defame each other using social networking sites. This is called cyber bullying. There is something that is different about cyber bullying from the usual form.  There is certain anonymity to it.  If you are on a social networking cite you can even set up an account with a fake name.  This would allow the bully to be totally anonymous.  What this means is that anyone and everyone could potentially be a bully. And statistics would show that it is a very common practice.  Even the victims of traditional bullying can take part in this form.

Because this is such a common occurrence and such a part of teenage culture, we must make sure that we talk with our kids about it.  When we set up the house parameters about internet we need to include the rules about cyber bullying.  Discuss with your spouse what the consequences will be if your children are caught being mean too or defaming someone else on the internet.

Many parents may ask, what’s really the big deal with this issue? First and foremost there are countless scriptures about guarding your tongue and not allowing unwholesome or slanderous talk come out of your mouth, in this case fingers.  But we also need to teach our children that not only is spreading lies wrong but spreading gossip about someone else is wrong as well.  The second thing to keep in mind is that there have been children that have been so affected by cyber bullying that they have gone so far as to take their own life.  Because of the seriousness of this we need to protect our children not only from being bullied but from being a part of bullying someone else.

Listen to today’s podcast for more insight on this topic.

Privacy vs. Protection | Part 9 2016-06-01T11:43:26+00:00

Help! I Can’t Keep My Children in Tupperware! with Julianna Guevara | Part 5

2015-10-08T13:46:31+00:00

Teaching Purity And Modesty

This is such an important thing to instill in your children. Click here to check out our week long series on this topic of sexual purity.

 

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Help! I Can’t Keep My Children in Tupperware! with Julianna Guevara | Part 5 2015-10-08T13:46:31+00:00

Help! I Can’t Keep My Children in Tupperware! with Julianna Guevara | Part 4

2015-10-06T12:57:42+00:00

Hope For Kids In Bad Schools

There are circumstances in which a parent can’t simply pull a child out of a school. So what can parents do to help a child sift through the negativity around them? Probably the most important thing a parent can do is talk. Have an open door policy in your house for questions. Don’t over react to a question that your child brings up because that may shut them down. As parents, we need to be the ones giving our children the answers so we always want them to feel comfortable bringing questions or concerns to us.

Secondly, we can get involved in our children’s schools. Try to schedule a time to volunteer, go to PTA meetings or school sporting events. Get to know your child’s teachers and consistently communicate with them. The more involvement you can have at your child’s school the more likely you are to get a feel for the issues that your child may face.  Even if your child is in a difficult school, don’t give up. Choose to make the best of the situation and make sure you are going overboard to pursue relationship with your child.

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Help! I Can’t Keep My Children in Tupperware! with Julianna Guevara | Part 4 2015-10-06T12:57:42+00:00

Help! I Can’t Keep My Children in Tupperware! with Julianna Guevara | Part 3

2015-10-05T15:38:19+00:00

Dealing With Diversity

One of the things that’s beautiful about the United States is the beautiful tapestry of ethnicity.  There are so many different races, ethnic groups and religions here that if we take the opportunity we can have many cultural experiences.  One of the biggest blessings to me personally is that as we raise our boys here in South Florida they get to have so many different cultural experiences.  With that, however, can come hostility towards different cultures, races and religions.  Sadly, we tend to naturally fear whatever we think is different.  It is so awesome to observe my small children, because of the diversity here, there is no sense of “difference” between groups.  Unfortunately, as they grow up they will encounter and observe hostility.

What can we do to counter it? We can make sure to give our children experiences around other cultures.  City sports leagues and schools are a great place for this.  We also need to teach them, never to return evil for evil.  We can also teach them how to see the unique things in each culture.  Once a week in the residential homes we would try to have a night where we would eat foods from different countries, in an effort to learn about their customs.  This can even true of other religions. While we don’t agree or believe the same things we can always make a point to learn things from others, such as how they serve those around them or their total devotion to their religion.

Take the time to teach your children to appreciate the amazing diversity around them.

 

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Help! I Can’t Keep My Children in Tupperware! with Julianna Guevara | Part 3 2015-10-05T15:38:19+00:00

Help! I Can’t Keep My Children in Tupperware! with Julianna Guevara | Part 2

2015-10-05T15:34:47+00:00

Discussing Gay Marriage

This is an issue that can be dealt with even before questions come up.  Like we discussed yesterday it is important to lay a scriptural foundation for when the difficult questions are asked.  Just like sex outside of marriage the Bible is clear on this issue. In Genesis, the Bible states that a man must be united with his wife to become one flesh.  This is a spiritual, physical and emotional reference. God made us to “fit together” to become one.

One of the things we must teach our children is not tolerance but love. Love is seeing past things you may not agree with. We are not very good at “loving the sinner-hate the sin” sometimes because we tend to forget that we are all sinners in need of a Savior. It is easier to focus on the sins of others, then your own sins.

Secondly, we need to make our own marriages something that is to be desired. For the next generation to grow up seeing that we are we so in love with our spouse that our children can’t help but think, “I want that!”

Thirdly, we need to keep our home an environment that is always an open door for discussions, even the difficult ones.

Check back the rest of this week as we discuss more of some of the issues our kids will face.

 

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Help! I Can’t Keep My Children in Tupperware! with Julianna Guevara | Part 2 2015-10-05T15:34:47+00:00

Help! I Can’t Keep My Children in Tupperware! with Julianna Guevara | Part 1

2015-10-08T13:39:54+00:00

Raising Your Child In An Anti-Biblical Culture

Sadly, our children have to grow up in a world that is a lot different from when we were children. Today’s culture has moved past the point of gray areas when it comes to certain issues. There are many areas today that are not only “unfriendly” towards Christianity, but unbiblical.  A lot of us would love to shield our children from anything that we feel doesn’t match what scripture teaches. We can’t, however, raise our children in a bubble. That isn’t what Jesus would have us do. He prepared his disciples for ministry. We can’t send our children out into the world without being equipped. We have to teach them scripture, what it says and then help them process the tough issues. Obviously, we aren’t going to sit down with our toddler and discuss some of these things but we can lay a biblical foundation at that age.  This way when they come home from school, a friend’s or even see something thru a media source we can point them to the foundation already laid. Check back this week as we continue this difficult but important discussion. We must prepare ourselves, in order to help our kids know what they believe so they can to minister to the world around them.   Listen to today’s podcast for more on this topic.

Help! I Can’t Keep My Children in Tupperware! with Julianna Guevara | Part 1 2015-10-08T13:39:54+00:00

Privacy vs. Protection | Part 10

2014-06-23T13:25:06+00:00

Cellphones

When we talk about the parenting subject of privacy vs. protection today’s topic is: cell phones.  The push to have cell phones has become younger and younger.  Many households no longer even have a land line which makes families have to address this issue.

The first thing that a parent needs to remember is that a cell phone is not a right, as your children would have you believe, it is a privilege.  Before parents extend this privilege to to a child, there are many things that need to be thought through ahead of time.  What will be your family cell phone parameters?  At what age is reasonable for a child to have a cell phone… not according to their friends and social circles … according to your family’s needs and standards.  Will they pay all or part of their bill?  What will be the parameters for talking/texting on it?  All of these are easier if established beforehand.

As you are setting up family cell phone rules the obvious first step is leading by example. If the rule is “no answering the phone during dinner,” but the parent … their leader …takes a call, it’s an obvious huge inconsistency.  It can even be helpful to have a family charging dock where everyone leaves their cell phones over night.  This can help with the battle of calls and texts late into the night.

Phone rules also need to be established about where and when having your phone is appropriate.  There have been many issues with cell phones in the schools.  Even cheating has gone tech as kids are texting test answers to each other. There is no reason for a child to have their cell phone on during school hours.  It creates a distraction to the classroom environment as well as being against the rules.

As difficult as this sounds, parents can lead by example in the car.  Teenage drivers are not experienced enough to be able to use a cell while driving.  Most states have a hands free law in place.  Set an example when it comes to cell phone appropriateness.

One more area to discuss which is extremely popular is texting. It is so easy because you can get straight to the point of communication. This may be why it appeals to the younger generations.  They have even gone so far as to shorten words to enable quicker communication. Because it is so popular, this form of communication is definitely something that parents should be aware of and place parameters around.  Until a child is trustworthy with the cell phone there may need to be limited, if any, texting.

Another issue that has popped up in this current trend is called “sexting.”  This can be either sexually explicit conversation or explicit pictures.  With the introduction of camera phones this has become a major problem.  The government is beginning to crack down on explicit pictures sent via text.  Most teens send them as a joke or because they have not thought through the ramifications of their actions.  However, because they are underage, the government is treating this issue as child pornography.  Please have a discussion with your child about this issue before allowing them to send or receive texts.

Listen to today’s podcast for more insight on this topic.

Privacy vs. Protection | Part 10 2014-06-23T13:25:06+00:00

Privacy vs.Protection | Part 9

2014-06-23T13:23:44+00:00

Cyber-Bullies

Another issue to address when discussing the reputation is the fact that some teens will attempt to defame each other using social networking sites. This is called cyber bullying. There is something that is different about cyber bullying from the usual form.  There is certain anonymity to it.  If you are on a social networking cite you can even set up an account with a fake name.  This would allow the bully to be totally anonymous.  What this means is that anyone and everyone could potentially be a bully. And statistics would show that it is a very common practice.  Even the victims of traditional bullying can take part in this form.

Because this is such a common occurrence and such a part of teenage culture, we must make sure that we talk with our kids about it.  When we set up the house parameters about internet we need to include the rules about cyber bullying.  Discuss with your spouse what the consequences will be if your children are caught being mean too or defaming someone else on the internet.

Many parents may ask, what’s really the big deal with this issue? First and foremost there are countless scriptures about guarding your tongue and not allowing unwholesome or slanderous talk come out of your mouth, in this case fingers.  But we also need to teach our children that not only is spreading lies wrong but spreading gossip about someone else is wrong as well.  The second thing to keep in mind is that there have been children that have been so affected by cyber bullying that they have gone so far as to take their own life.  Because of the seriousness of this we need to protect our children not only from being bullied but from being a part of bullying someone else.

Listen to today’s podcast for more insight on this topic.

Privacy vs.Protection | Part 9 2014-06-23T13:23:44+00:00

Privacy vs. Protection | Part 8

2014-06-23T13:25:58+00:00

Social Networking and Your Teen’s Reputation

It is a parent’s job to help the teen protect his or her reputation.  The impulsive nature of teens seems to block them from thinking about the long term effects of some of their social networking choices.   The myspace/facebook profiles are perfect examples.  Look at your teen’s profile and make sure there is nothing objectionable.  Establish a list of rules to protect your teen’s reputation.

Most teens do not think that colleges and potential employers look at their MySpace/Facebook pages to try to get to know them.  Comments, as well as, pictures/videos that are posted can damage their future.  Even comments that friends make on their pages reflect who they are.  With uploading pictures and videos happening often, they need to be run by the parent before they are posted. This helps add one more layer of accountability for internet usage.

Listen to today’s podcast for more insight on this topic.

Privacy vs. Protection | Part 8 2014-06-23T13:25:58+00:00

Privacy vs. Protection | Part 7

2014-06-23T13:26:47+00:00

Your Child’s Privacy And Social Networking

What’s a parent to do about the social networking scene. Kids today seem to do a lot of their “hanging out” online.  Which is why there has been an explosion of social networking sites. Parents must set parameters.

Many parents are not aware of the fact that sites have a 13/14 year age minimum.  Sites are doing what they can to safeguard younger children. They also have an automatic privacy setting for people under 16.  The problem is children are getting on and lying about their age.  Parents that allow their under 13 year old to have a Facebook or MySpace account are encouraging dishonesty.  This can be a very dangerous and slippery slope.

If your child is over the age limit that does not mean they must have an account.  These accounts need to be handled responsibly and can only be trusted to teens who can handle the responsibility.

Parents need to know passwords and privacy controls need to be set so only friends can see their page.  Teens need to understand they are not permitted to share personal information such as phone numbers, address, email addresses or any other information that a stranger could use to contact a child for a one on one. Only people they know should be the people who are allowed to be their “friends” on their pages.  It also can be dangerous when kids treat it like a contest to see who has the most “friends” and will allow anyone to be their friend on these sites.

This is by no means a comprehensive list of safe guards, but it is a starting point.   First and foremost keep an open dialog with your teen about their page or even get a Facebook or MySpace page yourself so you can keep track of what’s really going on.

Tomorrow we will discuss social networking and reputations.

Listen to today’s podcast for more insight on this topic.

Privacy vs. Protection | Part 7 2014-06-23T13:26:47+00:00