What A Man Needs In A Marriage
The male is much more short term oriented than the female. He is also very performance driven. He spends a lifetime looking for respect, the respect that God is referring to in Ephesians 5:33. Most men have little expectation about what marriage is suppose to do to their lives. So he will quest to find this illusive thing called respect in other arenas, places like work, sports, purchase of “toys”, or others at work. A key element for the wife to realize is that she must choose to respect her husband whether she thinks he is worthy or not. It’s not that he has earned her respect but rather that he is searching for it.
So what can a wife do? She can choose to be satisfied, both with things as well as him as a person. Guard her tongue, like Ephesians 4:29, tells us to do. Guard her heart. Matthew 12:34b says, “For whatever is in your heart determines what you say.” Find a mentor to encourage you in loving your husband and children well, as Titus 2 suggests. Finally, a wife must make the choice to be her husband’s friend and lover not his mother.
Both husbands and wife’s must strive to understand God’s concept of worth. We are not worthy in and of ourselves but we are made worthy because of what He has done for us. We must make the choice to see our spouse the way that God sees us. It also helps to remember that God is not only our father but our father-in-law!
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