When Others Damage Your Child’s Self-Esteem
Learning how to cope when other children are mean is something that unfortunately every child will have to face. How we handle these situations as parents can affect their self-esteem.
When a parent underestimates a child’s pain and downplays or ignores a peer problem it can cause damage. A child can feel even worse if a parent brushes off the emotion that they are feeling. The other reaction that a parent can have is to over react and try to fight the child’s battle first with out allowing the child to attempt to work it out on their own. There are extreme circumstances, such as threats, that warrant parental involvement. If a parent overreacts to every circumstance then it could cause a child to clam up and not talk to a parent about what is going on in their lives.
Today’s child can face a different level of bullying then any other generation. Social networking has made it so that home isn’t even a safe place from bullying. We need to stay aware of what is going on in our children’s lives. We do this by creating an environment for consistent communication. When your child is struggling with a situation just sit and be a listening ear. Sometimes a simple hug is encouragement enough. Help your child process how to handle the situation by asking, “What do you think you should do?” Most of the time just being a listening ear is the encouragement needed, more then being able to say “all the right words.”
Listen to today’s podcast for more insight on your child’s self-esteem.