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Teaching Kids Time Management | Part 5

2013-09-16T09:11:35+00:00

The Series Wrap Up

As we wrap up this week discussing training children in time management, there are two important facts to remember.  In order to be consistent, time management training is something that both parents need to be on the same page with.   This means that there needs to be discussion time or a parental staff meeting as you begin to decide on and implement a plan.

The second is that if we as parents are consistent with our plan, rewards and consequences the choice to follow the plan is placed on our child’s shoulders.  If we are not consistent then we the parents become the consequence.  With the plan clearly communicated to our child and consistently enforced it is easy to show the child that they are ultimately choosing the reward or the consequence by their behavior.  It removes us from the equation and allows us to be the unemotional enforcers of our plan. Both of these facts are true in many areas of parenting and remind us how important it is to have a plan in place.

Listen to today’s podcast for more insight on training your child in time management.

Teaching Kids Time Management | Part 5 2013-09-16T09:11:35+00:00

Teaching Kids Time Management | Part 4

2013-09-02T20:00:57+00:00

Giving Your Child Control Over Their Time

In the parenting we need to practice the ICE plan, instruct, consequence, and exercise.  When we are training our kids to use their time wisely it is no different.  The past few days we have been discussing the different ways to instruct your children by helping them to manage their time.  Next we need to set up the consequences both positive and negative for time management, meaning rewards for consistently sticking with the plan and what will be done if the child strays from the plan. As the child grows we can give them more and more control over their own time management, which is the exercise in the ICE plan.

Again as with money management, we can look at our goals for training our children in time management and work backwards.  Ultimately as our children leave our home we want them to be prepared to have control over their time, especially when facing all the time wasting temptations on a college campus. We need to give them room to practice managing their time while they are still under our roof in high school.  An easy place to do this is a teen’s bedtime. Keep in mind that a bedtime is different from a curfew.  You can slowly back a bedtime up until ultimately there is no bedtime.  As long as a teen is keeping up with their school work and morning family responsibilities then they can continue without a bedtime.   If they are having a hard time getting up with their alarm in the morning then the bedtime can be reinstated.  The important thing is to allow your children to practice time management while you are still there to help them with it.

 

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Teaching Kids Time Management | Part 4 2013-09-02T20:00:57+00:00

Teaching Kids Time Management | Part 3

2013-09-02T20:00:17+00:00

Teaching Kids to “Bank” Time

Teaching children to manage their time is such an important life skill that will help them to succeed.  One of the areas to help them learn how to do this, is the concept of banking time.  This concept can be the most useful when tackling a big project.  For small children we can use their chores to teach them this lesson.  If a child learns to pick up their toys or does a little bit every day then cleaning their room is not a big deal.  If they do not pick up after themselves then cleaning their room will big a huge job.  The same applies for older children and teens when having to complete a school project or book report.  One of the most important things these projects teach is how to budget your time.  If we help our children break a project down into bite size pieces and then hold them accountable we will save our family from a very stressful time the weekend before the project is due.  We are also teaching our children how to handle big tasks with out it stopping their lives.  This is a very important life skill to learn for college, the work place, and even for simple household management.

 

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Teaching Kids Time Management | Part 3 2013-09-02T20:00:17+00:00

Teaching Kids Time Management | Part 2

2013-09-02T19:59:42+00:00

Training Starts with Your Example

We have said many times that one of the ways our children learn best is observing our example; the area of time management is no different.  Is our home one of calm organization or of consistent stressful chaos?  If we are managing our time and our family’s time the overall timbre of the home should be that of a well oiled machine.  If we are not managing our time and our time is managing us then we will live in chaos darting from one thing to the next with the overwhelmed feeling of never getting ahead.

As parents we need to first look at our time and family time with realistic expectations.  Like we stated yesterday, there are only so many hours in the day so we need to make the most of them but we cannot be unrealistic at how much we can squeeze into those hours.  We must sit down and organize our schedule so that we will not be consistently responding to the “tyranny of the urgent,” but we will be in charge of our time.  This is where a weekly parent staff meeting can be effective. Remember it is ok to say no to things so that you can have those quiet times as a family!

 

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Teaching Kids Time Management | Part 2 2013-09-02T19:59:42+00:00

Teaching Kids Time Management | Part 1

2013-09-02T19:58:55+00:00

Why It’s Important to Teach Kids about Time Management

Today’s generation has so many things vying for their attention such as the internet, television, gaming and many others.  These things can be effective tools for learning and having fun but if not managed appropriately could be big time wasters.  If we allow our children to enter adulthood without knowing how to manage their time it can have the potential to effect so many areas of their life from household responsibilities, parenting, marriage and their job success.

Time is different from other things that we train our children how to manage.  Time, unlike money, is something that they will never get back.  You can make more money but there are only so many hours in a day.   Children in and of themselves are not usually time conscious but do thrive on a consistent schedule.  We can begin to train our children with time management by helping them have a schedule and stick to it.   This week we will be discussing how to train your children to be good managers which is one more key to their future success.

 

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Teaching Kids Time Management | Part 1 2013-09-02T19:58:55+00:00

T-Minus 3 “Time Management”

2010-07-28T20:36:08+00:00

In today’s fast paced culture, teaching our children how to use their time wisely becomes an important job that can make or break the college years.  Teaching Time Management to our children can help them to cope with the many distractions that campus life can have. With the instant access to information that the internet provides, there are many benefits for today’s college student.  For example, research for class papers is made much easier.   However, there are many things that may distract the student and eat away at their time. Online gaming has become a major problem and there are even some students who can become so addicted to gaming that they can’t keep up in their classes and will end up dropping out.  There are many other social activities that are available on the college campus that if not balanced can also effect the  grades of the student .   This is why in later high school years we must begin to allow our teens to manage their time.  We can be there to encourage the good decisions and help talk through the poor.  We must allow some freedom for our teen to make their own decisions in this area and possibly learn from their mistakes at home, with parental coaching.

One area that may work for a test of a child’s time management skills is bedtime.  As your child hits the  high school years you can experiment by  giving them a later bedtime.   As they approach their senior year, depending on their responsibility level, you can also see how they handle having no bedtime. This will begin to train them how to be responsible with their time and sleep schedule.

T-Minus 3 “Time Management” 2010-07-28T20:36:08+00:00

Allowing Your Child to Make the Decision

2010-07-21T19:39:37+00:00

One of the things that may be hardest for a parent to do is allow a child to fail.   Obviously in order to protect our children there are times we need to step in.   But there are also times when we must allow them to make the decision.  For example, growing up in our house we had to clean our closet on Saturday morning.   It was our decision whether or not to keep it clean all through the week.   If we chose to keep it clean our job on Saturday was easy.  Most times, however, it was easier through the week to not keep it up.  So the Saturday job became huge.   This was one of those small choices that we were allowed to make; and many times we chose poorly.  But we were allowed to learn this lesson of time management, the hard way.

There are also many times where a child may make a good decision but it may not be the best decision.  In fact, if we as the parent get involved we can make it the best decision.  Even though this is tempting there are times we need to allow the “good decision” to be made in order for our child to learn through it.  This opens up an opportunity for communication after the fact.  We can encourage our child that they made a good decision and help them to see little things they could have “tweaked” to make it the best.

Allowing Your Child to Make the Decision 2010-07-21T19:39:37+00:00

Choosing To Have No Regrets

2010-06-01T20:59:55+00:00

Why is it important to strive for a godly family?  All around us we see broken lives … many broken at the hands of family.  Not even the extreme cases of pain, such as abuse, but even the mild cases of children and teens whose parents have placed their own needs above the good of the family.  Although our children will not know how to verbalize it, what they really want and need is involved parents and a strong family unit. They want our time and a relationship.  They want to know that they are loved and valued unconditionally.  So many parents today are putting the pursuit of the “American Dream” above the needs of their children.  Many think that once they get that house, promotion or enough in savings, they can stop and spend more time at home.  But we can’t go back and make up for lost experiences.  A child only lives each day once. Do not miss out on your children’s lives because you will not get a do over with them.  Take advantage of this summer by putting the pursuit of family first.  This is a hard thing to focus on especially in today’s economy.  Fast forward and imagine you are sitting at your child’s graduation.  With your current lifestyle, what do you think you will wish you had done with your children?  Make the course correction now so you sit at their graduation with few or no regrets. God will provide and protect us but it is our job to have our priorities in place!

Choosing To Have No Regrets 2010-06-01T20:59:55+00:00

The Plan

2010-02-26T15:02:43+00:00

Creating a plan is necessary for many aspects of life but essential for parenting.  Having a plan makes many areas of parenting easier, such as discipline, time management, ect.   When the children have big chunks of unscheduled time a plan is even more important.   A plan helps us meet goals for the break, rather than waste time and get as frustrated.

Create a basic plan.  What is the goal for the break is it to get things accomplished? Is it to do several family activities or traditions? Is it to teach a life skill to your children?  There are several ideas for break that we will be fleshing out over the next few days so that by the time the break hits you will be able to keep your sanity.

For the family that both parents are employed outside the home, as well as the single family home, the concept of the plan is absolutely necessary.   You’ve heard it before: To fail to plan is to plan to fail.

The Plan 2010-02-26T15:02:43+00:00

Expectations

2010-02-26T14:59:15+00:00

What do we expect for Spring Break.?  It seems as parents our expectations fall into several categories.   We build a break or holiday up in our heads to be so big and exciting that it could never fulfill our expectations.  Then we are disappointed.  Another group of us dread the break, thinking only of the constant fighting and complaining.  This self-fulfilling prophecy can also set us up for disappointed.   The last group just wants to rest.  When this doesn’t happen or the break is suddenly over and we haven’t really accomplished anything … again disappointment.

Sit down and think through realistic goals and expectations for your children’s time off. That way you won’t doom yourself to failure.

Tomorrow we will discuss creating a plan for the break.

Expectations 2010-02-26T14:59:15+00:00