toddlers

Training Toddlers with Guest: Torrey Roberts | Part 5

2012-10-13T15:11:08+00:00

When Someone Else Is Also Training Your Toddler

There maybe many instances where a toddler may have the opportunity to practice the training outside your home. There may be short stints like nursery or longer stints such as daycare. The short stints can be looked at as practice times away from mom and dad. Be sure to take the time with the childcare worker/nursery attendant/babysitter to check how your child behaved and see what they need to work on.
The areas that can be a little bit more complicated are the family ones. Such as, time with grandparents or sharing time between mom and dad in a divorce. If possible share your parenting plan to see if, for the sake of the children, everyone can do the same thing. If this is not a possibility then at the very least make sure that your house is as consistent as it can be. Be aware that as children come back into your home they will have some adjustment time and adjust your expectations.

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Training Toddlers with Guest: Torrey Roberts | Part 5 2012-10-13T15:11:08+00:00

Training Toddlers with Guest: Torrey Roberts | Part 4

2012-10-11T20:20:32+00:00

Toddler Triggers

One of the things in dealing with toddlers is being preemptive with behavior. There are certain things that can trigger behavior and if a parent is aware of them they can
head off a potential melt down.
Some are very basic, but may not be thought about in the midst of the fray. Hunger can be a basic trigger as well as being over tired. So a trip to the grocery store too close to nap or lunch time may result in bad behavior. Overstimulation may also cause behavior issues because the toddler cannot process anything else.
Another behavior trigger for toddlers is boredom. This is an easy fix when you sense that your toddler is getting antsy, create an activity. Behavior also seems to slide when mom or dad is distracted so if a phone call needs to be made or another job needs to be done, take the time to get your toddler focused on something ahead of time. We discussed how important having a routine is for a toddler so taking them out of that routine may cause behavior issues because it is unfamiliar. The final trigger we will discuss is other children. Toddlers tend to be brilliant mimics because their brains are so programed for learning at this phase. Be ready when your toddler is around other kids, which is unavoidable, to deal with potential behavior that is picked up.

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Training Toddlers with Guest: Torrey Roberts | Part 4 2012-10-11T20:20:32+00:00

Training Toddlers with Guest: Torrey Roberts | Part 3

2012-10-10T13:05:06+00:00

The Healthy Process Of Training

Being consistent in the toddler years with training may help us for the long run. A toddler that consistently pushes back and continues to hit a wall, or consistent consequence, will eventually learn cause and effect. Eventually they will learn, “If I continue to do this I will not like the outcome.” You have already won the battle at an early age and your child knows that your “no means no”. There are several things that make training a toddler a bit easier. Toddlers thrive in a routine. If they know what to expect next they feel same and comfortable. Toddlers also need consistent sleep. A child who is not getting enough sleep will exhibit bad behavior because it is harder for them to control themselves. Toddlers need time to exert their energy. They need times to be able to just run and play. Like we mentioned yesterday the toddler also thrives on praise. They seem so much more willing to do things if a positive or exciting spin can be put on it rather then just a demand. For example making a game out of something as simple as picking up toys, may make it less of a battle. It also may help make the mundane of the continual day to day training fun for mom and dad as well.

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Training Toddlers with Guest: Torrey Roberts | Part 3 2012-10-10T13:05:06+00:00

Training Toddlers with Guest: Torrey Roberts | Part 2

2012-10-08T15:58:33+00:00

The Important Months For Establishing Consistent Boundaries And Encouragement

Toddlerhood is such a crucial time for parenting. Because they are beginning to explore the world around them and are processing everything, the toddler is ripe for this process. What an amazing phase of life that can happen so quickly. It seems like seconds between holding the completely dependent infant and chasing the toddler who is pushing hard for independence. This must be a confusing time for them as they are trying to learn how to communicate, control their emotions and learn boundaries. For this reason this is the time for us to implement the parenting plan and be consistent with consequences and praise. It’s not every phase of childhood that a cheer or applause (literally) can encourage your child to make the right decision. I remember trying to get my firstborn to eat his peas one night because he had hit a picky phase and didn’t want anything. At a loss I made up a “pea song” and would sing it for each bite eaten. It’s amazing what praise will do for encouraging a child in the right direction but it’s crucial for the toddler phase.
Take the time to set up those boundaries for your toddler and remember to go crazy with praise if they make a step in the right direction.

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Training Toddlers with Guest: Torrey Roberts | Part 2 2012-10-08T15:58:33+00:00

Training Toddlers with Guest: Torrey Roberts | Part 1

2017-02-06T18:30:40+00:00

Toddlers Are Suppose To Push Boundaries

To recap our last week discussing toddlers, we should not be surprised when they push the boundaries. We need to take it a step further and anticipate that they will push the boundaries. Forgive the analogy but it is similar to a dog learning an invisible electric fence. It isn’t a boundary that can physically be seen so they have to run until they hit the “consequence”. The dog must test the entirety of the fence to learn where his boundary lie. Some dogs will consistently push the limits. Others will learn more quickly and can even have their collars removed and will never leave the area because they believe there will be a consequence. Our toddlers have to learn this as well. They aren’t born immediately knowing their boundaries or even what is safe for them. We must teach them but we also must expect them to push back to see if the boundary is solid or if it is something that will change every time.  How hard they push back and how often can change with each child due to their temperament.
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Training Toddlers with Guest: Torrey Roberts | Part 1 2017-02-06T18:30:40+00:00

Training Toddlers with Guest: Efrain Figueroa | Part 5

2012-10-04T15:04:37+00:00

Pursuing A Plan

In the next few weeks we are going to spend an entire series on creating a plan, for that reason we aren’t going to go into great detail today. However, there are a few things that are important to know about the plan process. The first thing to remember is that it is vital to have a plan for parenting. We discussed in our series on yelling that when you don’t have a plan for discipline it is easy to become the consequence.
Secondly, it is important to make sure the plan in thoroughly communicated. This includes both spouses and the child involved. It is hard to be consistent with a plan if both parents aren’t on the same page. Which brings us to the final thing that is imperative to the plan, consistency. In order for a child to learn it is their behavior causing the consequences, the discipline must be consistent every time. Otherwise it is communicated that discipline is on the parent’s whim rather then connected to the child’s behavior.
Remember to keep a lookout for our series on creating that plan!

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Training Toddlers with Guest: Efrain Figueroa | Part 5 2012-10-04T15:04:37+00:00

Training Toddlers with Guest: Efrain Figueroa | Part 4

2012-10-04T15:04:16+00:00

Think Principles Not Procedures

If we are training with the purpose of raising a Godly child who is marriageable and employable it is easy to get overwhelmed with all the things for which we need to prepare our child. Especially a toddler whose entire purpose it seems is to test the realities of the boundaries placed before him.
However, if in the early years we can “lump” those rules in to principles we want to teach it will be easier both to communicate and to remember. For example, the simple principle of listen and obey, covers a multitude of rules. Another principle such as being kind to others helps blanket another set of rules, like not hitting, etc. If we can come up with consequences and rewards for our set of “principles” then the task suddenly doesn’t seem so insurmountable. Process through the Godly principles you want to instill in your child. These toddler years are a great place to begin this training!

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Training Toddlers with Guest: Efrain Figueroa | Part 4 2012-10-04T15:04:16+00:00

Training Toddlers with Guest: Efrain Figueroa | Part 3

2012-10-04T15:05:13+00:00

Purposeful Training

Yesterday we discussed “remembering your purpose”, when parenting toddlers we need to take that a step further. After establishing our purpose, we need to filter all of our training through it. This may seem like an insurmountable task but actually may help simplify the parenting process. Our purpose for parenting is to raise a Godly child who is marriageable and employable. So if we start with that end in mind it may help us to filter what may be just a parental preference, something that was a rule when the parent was a child and things that will help to accomplish our goal for parenting. There are obvious rules that we must instill like the meaning of “no” and things like not hitting. There are rules that seem to be gray areas like manners or running in the house. Now obviously manners and learning self control are very important for the future but we also must process our expectations for a young child. Take the time to filter your training through the ultimate parenting goals. Also take the time to have a staff meeting with your spouse to make sure you are on the same page, as well as talking through your expectations for your toddler to make sure they are age appropriate.

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Training Toddlers with Guest: Efrain Figueroa | Part 3 2012-10-04T15:05:13+00:00

Training Toddlers with Guest: Efrain Figueroa | Part 2

2012-10-04T15:03:51+00:00

Keep Focused on the Purpose

When in the “toddler trenches” it is important that we focus on our purpose. You may ask yourself, why am I doing this? Why am I fighting this battle day in and day out, it is exhausting? Keep in front of you the purpose for parenting. The goal is to raise a Godly child who is both marriageable and employable.
It also helps to keep in perspective that God has allowed us the privilege of training the children He has given us and we will be accountable to Him for that training.
He does encourage us with a promise in Proverbs 22:6. “Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it.” Training takes consistency, patience and intentionality. Remember that this period of “parenting bootcamp” is brief but how we handle it will impact the ease of our parenting in the future. Choose to be consistent and let your no mean no.

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Training Toddlers with Guest: Efrain Figueroa | Part 2 2012-10-04T15:03:51+00:00

Training Toddlers with Guest: Efrain Figueroa | Part 1

2012-10-04T15:02:57+00:00

The Right Perspective

It is very important when in the midst, or battlefield, of training toddlers to have the proper perspective. First, we need to remember that this is just a phase. While we can’t use it as an excuse for allowing behavior, it may give us strength in day to day to remember “this too shall pass.”
It is our job to instill in our children a moral compass or the ability to know right from wrong. This training begins with the toddler phase when we begin to teach them what the word no means. That is why it is imperative through this phase that we are consistent in discipline and making sure that our no means no.
Join us for the next two weeks as we begin to dive into the ups and downs of this roller-coaster we fondly know as toddlerhood.

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Training Toddlers with Guest: Efrain Figueroa | Part 1 2012-10-04T15:02:57+00:00