Six Basic Steps to Motivating Your Child
Here is a basic checklist of things to look over when processing an area that your child needs to be motivated in. These are all things that we as parents can do. The first three are questions to ask yourself before preceding.
The first question is, has anything changed in my child’s life recently? Process from your child’s point of view, things like a move, the birth of a sibling, or even things going in with you as a parent your child can pick up on. It may be as simple as having a conversation with your child explaining things or communicating that you know that things are different for them at the moment but you are there supporting them.
The second question is, how is the relationship? Ask yourself, does my child always feel that I’m proud of them or does my praise focus on one sibling more than another or am I only praising performance? Spend some time processing how you can consistently communicate that you are proud of your child.
Thirdly ask, why are we in this hole? Do I need to do a better job teaching my child time management or can I simply spend some extra time helping my child with this subject? Often times this is all that is needed for extra help with schoolwork. If you feel that this is not the case, like we have said earlier this week, spending time with your child’s teacher should give valuable insight into what is going on in the classroom.
The next three steps to motivating our children are easy actions that we can take. The fourth step is be sure to cheer effort. Our cheering need to not be solely outcome based. They may not have gotten an A on that book report they spent so much time on but be sure to praise the hard work put in!
The fifth step to motivation is constantly encourage. When your child is in the midst of working through something we can be their constant cheerleaders. “I know you can do this!” or “you are doing a great job,” should be a constant mantra. Our children’s belief in themselves comes from our belief in them!
Lastly something that can help your child is to know how you came through a personal hardship or failure. There maybe some stories from your own life, currently or past, that may encourage them that they can get through this time. It is great for our children to know that we are not perfect. How we handle our mistake or hardships can be a testament to sticking with it!
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