Raising Daughters | Part 3

Raising Daughters | Part 3

Aug 16

The Power of Words

The power of our words with our children is almost incalculable. We can build them or devastate them with what and how we speak to them. This rings very true for raising a girl because of how they filter things. This is such an important topic that we have spent a week discussing it. Click here to see the series.

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Raising Daughters | Part 2

Raising Daughters | Part 2

Aug 15

Modesty

One of the big differences in raising girls and boys is the issue of modesty. Unfortunately today, women are still judged on appearance so there is a constant pressure to look and dress a certain way. This may be even more compounded for our daughters as they live in a world of more intense peer pressure and scrutiny. There have been so many articles written on modesty, especially of late. While we are setting up boundaries in our home for what is and isn’t acceptable, we need to remember that modesty is also a heart issue. Am I dressing for attention or to get social needs met, trying to fit in or make a statement? We need to help our daughters see not only what they are communicating by their dress but look deeper to the motive behind it. It may be as simple as everyone at school wears this. Either way we need to be helping our daughter process modesty not just enforcing rules on the subject. The goal should be to have a daughter who honors Christ in all things, one of which is how she dresses. We also as moms, need to remember that we are the representation of what a Christ follower looks like to our children. How are we role-modeling modesty?

 

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Raising Daughters | Part 1

Raising Daughters | Part 1

Aug 14

The Difference From Raising Boys

There are many ways girls are different then boys. We spent a week discussing boys, so now lets look at what it means to raise a daughter. Each gender has different needs just like different personalities do. If boys are higher end in their physical needs, for example getting their energy out by running and playing, girls are high end relational. Even in their self play, they are wanting to do things that are relational such as playing with dolls. These are generalizations but for the most part their needs will ring true. As parents we always need to be cautious about how we say things to our children but especially girls because they filter everything through emotions. We can see this especially as our daughter grows and begins to hit the pre-teen and teen years. We will spend this week looking at how we grow our girls into women.

 

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Raising Boys | Part 5

Raising Boys | Part 5

Aug 11

Teaching Him the “Why” of Life

 
Raising Boys | Part 4

Raising Boys | Part 4

Aug 10

Protecting Their Eyes

This topic may be one of the biggest things to strike fear into a mother’s heart, well and the thought of their son behind the wheel of a car. We cannot deny the prevalence of issues like pornography in our society. The mainstream world has become a lot more accepting of pornography. It is loosing is stigma and in some places viewed as normal. With the invention of the internet and smart-phones we are in a time where it has become unbelievably accessible. There are even apps available whose purpose is to create a place for “sexting”. It is can be very overwhelming and make a parent want to bury their head in the sand. But for the protection of our sons we can’t.

One of the first things we can do as parents is to create boundaries. Computers should be in family areas like the living room and not the bedroom. Phones should be plugged in overnight, not in a bedroom. You can even put restrictions and passwords on things like Ipads and computers to protect younger children from wandering accidentally. The biggest thing we can do as a parent is teach them the “why”. Why fight this battle? If I don’t know the “why this is important”, I won’t go to the effort to fight it. We need to raise our children to love and serve Christ. This is “caught and taught” by the people closest to them, their family. God gives us the mandate and the how to do this in Deuteronomy 6:5-9. Take the time to read through this passage and think through how you can realistically apply it to your family.

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