Let The Culture Around You Dictate Your Parenting Plan
There are several areas we can allow the culture to impact how we parent. The first is keeping a crazy schedule. It seems like there is a belief that if I keep my children busy they won’t get into trouble. The problem with that is then training your child gets placed on the back burner. Another area of cultural influence can be the concept of all work and no play. With all the busyness and homework in our children’s lives we must make sure to carve out time for family fun. Our culture also seems to have our children growing up too fast. We need to remember that our children are still children. We need to have realistic expectations of what they are capable of but have a plan for when unacceptable childish behavior happens. Parents have to be sure to work as a team to create the plan for training their children. We must set aside a time to talk as a team weekly, to make sure that we are on and stay on the same page. This is just the “tip of the iceberg” of areas we can let culture impact our parenting. Even if it is counter cultural we must make parenting our children one of our top priorities behind our relationship with God and our spouse. Take time out to evaluate how you may be allowing culture to influence your parenting.
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Don’t Prepare Them To Become Adults
The whole goal of parenting should be to raise Godly children who will become responsible adults. This will make them marriageable and employable. To do this we should be giving them more and more responsibilities as they age. They can earn more privileges and freedoms as they prove themselves responsible. Sometimes this means allowing natural consequences to occur. It is tempting for us to fall into the trap of rescuing our children. If we keep rescuing our child for something like forgetting their homework, we are actually enabling their irresponsibility. We also need to hold them accountable, make sure they are doing what they say and following instructions. Another area we need to be working on with our children is teaching them how to share, give and sacrifice for others. This is an extremely important lesson to have learned before going into marriage. Siblings help a parent to train in these lessons. Make sure you are encouraging and applauding when you see one child sacrificing, no matter how small, for their sibling. Keep the end goal of parenting at the forefront of your mind and remember that we are raising our children for adulthood.
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Don’t Teach Them To Respect Authority
Many have said that parenting isn’t for the feint of heart. Parenting is hard work! Unfortunately, there are things that we can do to make it much more difficult then it has to be. The first thing that will make life a lot more difficult is to not instill respect for authority in our children. This can make things much more difficult at home and sets our child up for failure, not only at school but as an adult. This is such an important issue we spent a week discussing how and why to teach respect to your children. Click here to see that series.
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A Story For Easter
There is a beautiful story that you can read to your children Easter morning. It is a story that has to do with the linen cloth placed over Jesus face during his burial. Here it is.
The Folded Napkin (author anonymous)
The Gospel of John (20:7) tells us that the napkin, which was placed over the face of Jesus, was not just thrown aside like the grave clothes.
The Bible takes an entire verse to tell us that the napkin was neatly folded, and was placed at the head of that stony coffin.
Early Sunday morning, while it was still dark, Mary Magdalene came to the tomb and found that the stone had been rolled away from the entrance.
She ran and found Simon Peter and the other disciple, the one whom Jesus loved.. She said, ‘They have taken the Lord’s body out of the tomb, and I don’t know where they have put him!’
Peter and the other disciple ran to the tomb to see. The other disciple out ran Peter and got there first. He stopped and looked in and saw the linen cloth lying there, but he didn’t go in.
Then Simon Peter arrived and went inside. He also noticed the linen wrappings lying there, while the cloth that had covered Jesus’ head was folded up and lying to the side.
Was that important? Absolutely!
Is it really significant? Yes!
In order to understand the significance of the folded napkin, you have to understand a little bit about Hebrew tradition of that day. The folded napkin had to do with the Master and Servant, and every Jewish boy knew this tradition.
When the servant set the dinner table for the master, he made sure that it was exactly the way the master wanted it. The table was furnished perfectly, and then the servant would wait, just out of sight, until the master had finished eating, and the servant would not dare touch that table, until the master was finished.
Now if the master were done eating, he would rise from the table, wipe his fingers, his mouth, and clean his beard, and would wad up that napkin and toss it onto the table. The servant would then know to clear the table. For in those days, the wadded napkin meant, “I’m finished.”
But if the master got up from the table, and folded his napkin, and laid it beside his plate, the servant would not dare touch the table, because……….
The folded napkin meant,
“I’m coming back”
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