The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #19

The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #19

Aug 01

#19-Serving Others (We Are Here To Serve Mom)

One thing that Dad did a great job teaching us to do was serve our mom.  Most of our house-hold chores were things that would help her out and serve her.  He did a great job leading by example in this area.  He was always of the mindset that mom made dinner so it was our job to serve her and clean up the kitchen.  It was such a great lesson that taught us several things.  First it taught us how to serve.  Second it taught us that that role is to be respected and revered not taken advantage of.  Thirdly it taught my brother how a woman was to be treated and taught me how I needed to be treated one day as a wife and mother.

Family is a great place to learn how to serve each other and a perfect person to begin serving is mom.  As a mom sometimes we can be frustrated with this area.  We can easily think that’s great but that never happens in my family; or we can think I’m glad my kids are trying to serve but that just means more work for me later.  First we have to be willing sometimes to ask for help when we need it. We also need to realize that sometimes the lesson of learning to help or serve someone else is more important than the fact that you may be able to do the job more quickly and efficiently.

Click Here for the link to our series on teaching your child to serve.

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The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #18

The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #18

Jul 31

#18- Listen

Listening is something that is imperative to parenting on several levels.  It is important that we listen to our children, that we listen to our spouses in order to work as a parenting team, and that we train our children up in listening skills.  The skill of listening is something that can make or break their future employment as well as their future marriage.  It is another area that we have spent a whole week discussing, click here to check out “The How To’s of Listening.”

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The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #17

The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #17

Jul 30

# 17- Date Your Child

Something that you can do even when your children are small to help prepare them for future dating is taking them out on dates yourself.  This one on one time can help to serve many purposes for their future.

Even at a young age you can begin to instill in them how to show respect to members of the opposite sex.  For instance, if a father is taking out his young daughter, he can open doors for her ect.  If a mother is taking out her son, she can teach him how to open doors for her and begin to train him how to be a gentleman.

As years go by, maintaining these special times can set the stage for awesome communication.  Parents often wonder how they can communicate with their teens.  Consistently having a weekly “date” is a perfect way to keep open doors of communication…especially if this has been established from a young age.  See, your kids are never too young to begin this training.

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The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #16

The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #16

Jul 29

#16-Have Fun

It is so easy in parenting to get caught up in life and simply forget to have fun! This seems to happen right when we need to focus on having fun the most.  Either parents are stressed over a situation, having to really focus on a parenting issue with a child, or the family is really busy.  These are the times to make sure that you are taking time out for fun.  During crazy or stressful times for the kids in the residential program at Sheridan House, we would make sure to surprise them every so often with something fun or silly.  It would be something as simple as waiting for the van to pull in from school with a bucket filled with water balloons.  It can be something silly like that which only takes five minutes out of the schedule to communicate fun.

Kids, even our teens in residential care, will pretty much always get into a fun and silly surprise.  Whether it’s taking the long way home from school to hit up a dollar menu for a milkshake or a bucket of water balloons, put fun back into the routine.  We can’t forget that after all we are raising children, take time out for fun.

 

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The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #15

The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #15

Jul 28

#15-Give them Keys That Open Doors

It may seem like a small thing in the vast array of things that we teach our children but something as simple as manners can help them be chosen by a future employee.  Simple etiquette will make a teen or young adult stand out from among their peers, even when interviewing for a job.

There are several small things that we can do to train our children in this area.  It can even start with toddlers but thankfully this is an area that is never too late to focus on.  Simply teaching your child to say please and thank you can do wonders.  Basic table manners is also an invaluable tool that will help your child in many areas from dating to dining out with clients.

A few other simple but valuable etiquette tools to teach your child are looking people in the eyes and having a proper response to people.  Teaching your child to look someone in the eye when they are talking communicates not only confidence but respect.  Another thing that communicates respect is the “yes sir/ma’am” and “no sir/ma’am”.  Basic manners will be something that sets your child apart from the rest.

 

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